Why can fear be comfortable? Have you stopped to think of this? Probably notfor it seems difficult to equate fear to comfort, even using them in the same sentence does not happen often, nor make much sense, however we human beings frequently live this dichotomy; and I'll explain why.
Fear in and of itself is a rather uncomfortable feeling, it is a well known manifestation of insecurity, potential harm to self, loved ones, or even property. Fear whether it be sudden or chronic creates anxiety, and as you might be thinking right now, due to these and other mental processes as well as the physiologic repercussions which will stem from them, fear will inevitably have a negative impact on your life, actualy the only true benefits of fear are those directly related to the fight or flight response, a primitive reaction linked to self preservation. The problem is, we humans aside from real potential threats, tend to create imagined threats in pretty much every area of life.
Given the prior, you might wonder why I suggest fear can be comfortable and the answer is not hard to comprehend. You see, few things generate more fear in our lives than failure, and that is at any level. On the other hand, individuals as a defense mechanism try to find answers that can potentially justify their failings or short comings, additionally accountability is something we all dread. Accepting being accountable is probably the single most difficult area in which to attain maturity... regardless of age.
It so happens that fear frequently serves as an emotional cloak behind which we can "safely hide", being afraid lends itself to creating a sense of empathy and even sympathy from others to ourselves, which in turn facilitates that others may overlook or at the very least excuse our mistakes. So why is this so terrible? Getting off the hook, being liked, being excused, all very nice right? The answer is yes, most certainly, however allowing yourself to become a victim in life (or playing the role) because of your fear, will unfortunately lead to a mental molding process which will end up defining your life, therefore you will have fear penetrate every area of your life the samlles crevices of your soul will become infected by fear, you will start living a state of permanent insecurity.
You will feel great difficulty to generate forward motion, a positive outlook for anything will be difficult to come by, and eventually your overall existence will be greatly lacking in Light. Happiness and fulfillment will strongly tend to elude you, and all of this will in turn lead to more fear, creating a vicious cycle of despair.
So as a take home thought, please don't allow yourself to live in fear, certainly don't create it intentionally... Even less as a manipulation tool. If it knocks on your door ask yourself if it has any merit, if the answer is yes and needs to be addressed deal with the issue at hand, face life and its challenges, viewing them merely as oportunities to learn and grow, with perseverance and believe in yourself, you will overcome these challenges. Also accept accountability and move forward to enjoy life in a fearless, responsible and happy manner. One last thing, please bear in mind... fearless does not mean reckless. Avoiding fear, and definitely not indulging in it will lead to great peace of mind, with happiness, success and fulfillment.
Be responsible, be fearless and be well!
Bliss and Light to all
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